Marriage in crisis

 

 

A famous saying is: If at first you don’t succeed try, try again.

Is this really the saying we want to go by – Wouldn’t you want to try and fix mistakes, and understand the problems before jumping back into the saddle?

Where has problem solving gone? According to verywell problem solving has 7 steps, Identifying the problem, defining the problem, Forming a strategy, organizing information, allocating resources, monitoring progress, and evaluating the results.

Starting with identifying the Problem, Why would you assume you knew the entire problem with the reason you failed in the first place?

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One should decide and Define the Problem by figuring out exactly went wrong, then Form a Strategy to better prepare yourself, and those with you. This means that you have a strategy to use if things began to fail, or go wrong. Take a minute and Organize Information so there is a mental portfolio of the information detailing the problem/s, and how you could possibly fix the problem/s that arise. This means all the roadblocks on the way, how to get around them, and ways to fix them for the future.

Allocating Resources How will you work to solve the problems, what will you use to your advantage when some problems arise? What will be done to prevent similar problems in the future? Is there anything that can be done to help us?

Monitoring Progress: What can and will be done, how things progress, and keeping watch for if a problem or event that happens that could cause failure things must be checked.

Evaluating the Results — Did anything help Has taking looks at what could, can, and has gone wrong help plan for the future and the current? There is only so much one can do. The biggest part is to be willing to problem solve for today and every tomorrow.

According to Psychologytoday Statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce(link is external).”

Part of the reasons marriages keep failing is because many re-marriages happen in mid to late 30’s, when parties normally have kids in their first marriage, it leaves some with less reason to work towards keeping the marriage.

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A normal thing in life is to love, but why do we include the loss in part of life? Past death shouldn’t we fight tooth and nail to prevent losses in our life of loved ones?

Or do you believe that we should we start saying “If at first you don’t succeed, rush in and fail, fail again?”

People think of Marriage as one, and work as two. I think that could be true unless you consider PR because how is Marriage that different in PR? We both follow the same steps.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201202/the-high-failure-rate-second-and-third-marriages

http://www.divorcesource.com/ds/main/u-s-divorce-rates-and-statistics-1037.shtml

https://www.verywell.com/what-is-problem-solving-2795485

 

 

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